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Recommended Reading


For years now, the highest recommended book on recovery from cultic experiences, Captive Hearts, Captive Minds, has been out of print. We are extremely pleased to announce that it is once again available, under a new title: Take Back Your Life: Recovering from Cults and Abusive Relationships. Janja Lalich, one of the authors, says: "I revised and updated the book, as well as added new material. Some of the new material includes a new section on those born and raised in cults, more on what I call small "family" or "no-name" cults, more on one-on-one cultic relationships, more information specifically for therapists and helping professionals, such as a chaper on PTSD. The resources and recommended reading lists have also been updated, and there is lots of other new material. You can order the book directly from the publisher (link below) or from Amazon. It will also be available on ICSA's web site: http://www.cultinfobooks.com/ 
 
Take Back Your Life
Recovering from Cults and Abusive Relationships

by Janja Lalich and Madeleine Tobias

 
Cult victims and those who have suffered abusive relationships often suffer from fear, confusion, low-self esteem, and post-traumatic stress. Take Back Your Life explains the seductive draw that leads people into such situations, provides guidelines for assessing what happened, and hands-on tools for getting back on track. Written for the victims, their families, and professionals, this book leads readers through the healing process. A resource list and numerous personal accounts of those who have successfully made the transition to the �normal� world provide help and inspiration.

About the Authors

Janja Lalich, Ph.D., is Associate Professor of Sociology at California State University, Chico. She has been studying the cult phenomenon since the late 1980s and has coordinated local support groups for ex-cult members and for women who were sexually abused in a cult or abusive relationship. She is the author of Bounded Choice: True Believers and Charismatic Cults, and co-author, with Margaret Singer, of Cults in Our Midst.

Madeleine Tobias, M.S., R.N., C.S., is the Clinical Coordinator and a psychotherapist at the Vet Center in White River Junction, Vermont, where she treats veterans who experienced combat and/or sexual trauma while in the military. Previously she had a private practice in Connecticut and was an exit counselor helping ex-members of cultic groups and relationships.

Reviews

  • "Take Back Your Life is must reading for everyone who wants to understand the powerful appeal that cults have for so many ordinary people, using so many disguises, with so many subtle tactics. This book's wisdom is vital for us all."
    Philip G. Zimbardo, Ph.D., Professor of Psychology, Stanford University
  • "Former members of cults (including those born or raised in such groups) and individuals coming out of abusive relationships will gain valuable insights from this book on how to deal with those experiences and their aftermath. Concerned professionals, family members, and friends will also find useful advice on aiding those who have been abused. I believe that Take Back Your Life is the most insightful practical introduction to this subject."  --Michael D. Langone, Ph.D., Executive Director, International Cultic Studies Association
  • "This comprehensive book takes the former cult member through all the necessary healing stages -- from understanding the effects of mind control and cult involvement to taking positive steps toward a healthy, balanced recovery. I highly recommend this book, which respects the strength, courage, dignity, and intelligence of former cult members." Carol Giambalvo, author, Exit Counseling: A Family Intervention 
  • "I wish every cult member, and every family of a cult member, struggling to free himself from the trauma of membership in a destructive relationship could read Take Back Your Life. It offers the powerful healing medicine of understanding." Eugene H. Methvin, Senior Editor, Reader's Digest 
  • "Take Back Your Life is an intelligent, well-written book that will be invaluable to former cult members, their families, and anyone who wishes to understand the cult phenomenon. This book will be a classic and will have to be added to every cult watcher's library, where it will be consulted again and again." Lorna Goldberg, M.S.W., L.C.S.W., and William Goldberg, M.S.W., L.C.S.W.

Bounded Choice: True Believers and Charismatic Cults, by Janja Lalich (University of California Press, 2004)  As a way of understanding such perplexing events as the Heaven's Gate suicides, many have come to see those who join cults as needy, lost souls, unable to think for themselves. This compelling look at the cult phenomenon written for a wide audience, dispels such simple formulations by explaining how normal, intelligent people can give up years of their lives -- and sometimes their very lives -- to groups and beliefs that appear bizarre and irrational [to outsiders]. Janja offers a new, very understandable model for thought reform and cult/group dynamics. A must read! Available through ICSA's bookstore.

Churches that Abuse and
Healing from Churches that Abuse, by Ronald M. Enroth
Help for those hurt by legalism, authoritarian leadership, manipulation, excessive discipline, and spiritual intimidation. Available from ICSA (239)514-3081

Combating Cult Mind Control, by Steven Hassan
Spells out the details of the complicated yet understandable process of helping free a human being from the bondage of mental manipulation. Available from ICSA (239) 514-3081

Crazy Therapies: What Are They? Do They Work? by Margaret Thaler Singer and Janja Lalich.
A startling--and often downright amusing--expose of the alternative philosophies and practices that can be found in today's psychotherapeutic marketplace. Available from ICSA (239)514-3081

Cults in Our Midst, by Margaret Thaler Singer with Janja Lalich
Available from ICSA (239) 514-3081

Cults: What Parents Should Know, by Joan Ross & Dr Michael Langone
Available from ICSA (239) 514-3081

Dangerous Persuaders, by Louise Samways
(Penguin Australia, 1994) An expose of gurus, personal development courses and cults, and how they operate in Australia.

Family Interventions for Cult-Affected Loved Ones, by Carol Giambalvo
Published by the American Family Foundation, the leading professional organization devoted to cultic studies, this important new book, with an introduction by Dr. Michael Langone, provides practical information for families concerned about a cult-involved relative. It describes the process of exit counseling, a voluntary approach to helping cultists makes informed decisions about their group affiliation. Family interventions are the most effective alternative to the controversial process of deprogramming, which involves coercion. Latest version available in PDF format on ICSA web site.

Faith that Hurts, Faith that Heals, by Steven Atterburn & Jack Felton
Atterburn and Felton, 1992

How We Know What Isn't So: The Fallibility of Human Reason in Everyday Life, by Thomas Gilovich, The Free Press, 1991 ISBN 0-02-911705-4
An investigation of how even highly educated people become convinced of the validity of questionable or demonstrably false beliefs about the world, and the unfortunate impact of these beliefs.

Influence: The New Psychology of Modern Persuasion, by Robert B. Cialdini, Ph.D.
A landmark publication in furthering our understanding of the persuasion process.   Available from ICSA (239) 514-3081

Recovery from Cults: Help for Victims of Psychological and Spiritual Abuse edited by Michael Langone, Ph. D.
A virtual handbook for mental health professionals. Available from ICSA (239)514-3081

Recovery from Abusive Groups, by Wendy Ford 
Ms. Ford has taken the trauma and despair of exiting from a destructive cult and offered gentleness and encouragement in a way only someone who's been there can. Available from ICSA (239) 514-3081

Thought Reform and the Psychology of Totalism, by R.J. Lifton, M.D.
A classic textbook and case study on victims of thought reform and the elements of thought reform programs. Available from ICSA (239) 514-3081

The Child's Song: The Religious Abuse of Children, by Donald Capps
Westminster John Knox Press 1995

The Secret World of Cults, by Jean Ritchie
ISBN 0 207 16990 X Includes reports on The Children of God, The Unification Church (Moonies), ISKCON (Hare Krishna), the Mormons, Scientology, The London Church of Christ, Rajneesh, Jehovah's Witnesses, Therapy cults, New age cults, Satanism

The Verbally Abusive Relationship and Verbal Abusive Survivors Speak Out on Relationship and Recovery, by Patricia Evans; Bob Adams, Inc Publishers 1992/1993

TM and cult mania by Michael A. Persinger, Norman J. Carrey & Lynn A. Suess. Describes and explains the psychological techniques and the commercial tricks by which cult mania can be induced.

Trauma and Recovery: The aftermath of violence - from domestic abuse to political terror, by Judith Lewis Herman, M.D. Basic Books (HarperCollins Publishers, Inc. 1992

Toxic Faith: Understanding and Overcoming Religious Addiction, by Jack Felton & Stephen Aterburn

Without Conscience: the disturbing world of psychopaths among us
. by Dr. Robert D. Hare. If you want to know what makes cult leaders tick, this is a must read. Pocket Books, Simon & Schuster, NY, 1993


BOOKS ABOUT SPECIFIC GROUPS

The Boston Movement: Critical Perspectives of the International Churches of Christ, edited by Carol Giambalvo and Herbert Rosedale 
ISBN 0-931337-08-9   Contains a history of the movement, "The Boston Church of Christ at Boston University, personal accounts of former members and a parent of a current member, a chapter on exit counseling an individual from the movement, an examination of the movement in relation to thought reform criteria, Chapter 1 of Discipling Dilemma (a psychological study) and an analysis of a psychological study of the group's abuses. Available through ICSA - (941)514-3081

Damaged Disciples: Casualties of Authoritarian Churches and the Shepherding Movement, by Ron & Vicki Burks
Available from Wellspring Retreat and Resource Center and ICSA.

The Discipling Dilemma, Ed. Flavil R. Yeakley
ISBN 0-89225-311-8 A study of the discipling movement amongst Churches of Christ. (currently out of print) Chapter 2 of this book is included in The Boston Movement: Critical Perspectives on the International Churches of Christ (above)

Discipling Ministries: An Inside Look, by Danny Dixon                   
ISBN 0-89225-307-X  A look at the errors of legalism in the discipling ministries. Available through Gospel Advocate (800) 251-8446

The Discipling Movement
, by Maurice Barnett  A study of the Neo-Crossroads Philosophy among churches of Christ  

From Dean's List to Dumpsters -- Why I Left Harvard to Join a Cult, by Jim Guerra. An excellent book about his experience in The Brethren, A/K/A Jim Roberts Group, A/K/A The Garbage Eaters. For more information on the group, see the parents' web site at http://members.tripod.com/~nfishel/index.html Book available from ICSA.

Help At Any Cost: How the Troubled-Teen Industry Cons Parents and Hurts Kids, by Maja Szalavitz, The Penguin Group, Riverhead Books, New York. 2006

I Was Raised a Jehovah's Witness, by Joe Hewitt
A look at the Jehovah's Witnesses from the inside. Published by Kregel Publishing, Grand Rapids, MI, 1997

Regaining Faith After Boston: An Insider's View, Sharen Meyers ISBN 1-56794-119-2  A look at how one recovers their faith in God after walking away from the Boston Movement. Available from Star Bible Publications, 800-433-7507

What Does the Boston Movement Teach? (Volumes I - III), by Dr Jerry Jones. Available from: Star Bible Publications, 800-433-7507

The Religion That Kills -- Christian Science: Abuse, Neglect and Mind Control. by Dr. Linda S. Kramer, Huntington House Publishers, 2000. To order: www.huntingtonhousebooks.com


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